The Peace We Crave

I have over a decade of sobriety and have now helped hundreds in their recovery journey.

But I would NEVER want to do my first year of sobriety again. Without alcohol to numb them, ALL the emotions hit me at once. Most of my friends had been drinking buddies so with sobriety they all slowly left my life. My husband had dealt with a lot and was thinking of leaving me.

I went to 12-step groups, and it was great for staying sober, but not for actually thriving in sobriety. I was still struggling emotionally on the inside.

In 12-step, the final step is getting to the point where you help others. But I sensed that wasn’t the end of my journey. I craved emotional support and needed deeper healing.

Eventually, I faced a choice when I realized sobriety was a lifelong thing and I needed deeper support to sustain it.

I began seeking something outside the 12-step realm. I began a meditation practice, started to work with energy healers, found a recovery yoga community that provided practices to support people outside of 12-step program.

Until one day, I could look in the mirror with self-compassion and see my worthiness. People began to depend on me again. I developed real friendships and bonds – the kind I can stay with when I travel. And all this healing work healed my relationship with my husband – we’re about to celebrate 20 years of marriage.

Now when the BIG things in life happen, the ones that could turn into catastrophes and relapses, I have everything in place to support me – the community to ask for help, the internal calm to navigate and plan a course of action, instead of reaching for a drink. I have a clear mind to face daily challenges, whether it’s something cutting me off in traffic or losing a job.

It took me until my second or third year to find my way to this place. But I don’t want others to be like me and stay in that place as long as I did. That’s why I help women in their first year to not just stay sober but thrive—reclaiming control and building a life of freedom, healing, and purpose.